What can anal toys bring to straight men?
08.06.2025 17:20
End result, anal toys help bring straight men, more and better anal sex with women.
Every woman I know who has pegged (used a strap on dildo harness to anally fuck) her BF or husband has expressed the same sentiment afterwards. Specifically, ‘I never understood how much work they were doing during sex’ and some variation of ‘now I understand why guys roll off and fall asleep right afterwards’. As a consequence, they voiced more appriciation of and understanding of men’s efforts while having sex. Their male partners were working harder than they had previously recognized during sex. And almost all the women I knew had the insight to recognize that pegging was still easier than what their men had to do. They had a permanently hard dildo and if they had an orgasm quickly, that just meant time for more orgasms! They didn't have to thread the needle of staying aroused enough to stay hard, but not getting to aroused and reaching orgasm to quickly….. on top of doing an aerobic workout.
(1) Am I suggesting that women should consider waiting to try out anal play until they are with a guy who enjoys receiving it. Yes I am. I’m also suggesting that if a woman has had a bad experience ing the past, she should consider trying it again when she’s with a man who likes receiving. Have him go first, show you what he likes and then you play with him before you try receiving anything.
The other answers, even collapsed ones, are great. The sensations from anal sexuality, particularly prostate stimulation can dramatically enhance orgasms. And like everyone else I have to say, because it’s the zombie idea that just won't fucking die: anal does not mean gay. Gay is about being a man who is attracted to and falls in love with other men. There is nothing wrong with that, but liking butt stuff is about enjoying sensations that a woman, or a solo toy can produce just as easily as a guy. A guy who loves his wife’s blow jobs isn’t gay because her mouth works just like a guys mouth. The situation is no different with the guy who likes his girlfriend fucking his ass with a toy.
End result:anal toys help bring straight men women who have had experiences that can foster extra appreciation for what you do for her in bed.
With that out of the way, there are two other things that anal toys can bring to straight men that I have not seen anyone here mention.
And how much lube do you need? Too much is almost enough.
She may be very reluctant to try it again. Seeing you do it to yourself and having an opportunity to penetrate you can go a long way towards her giving it another chance.and seeing that the problem wasn’t that anal sex is inherently painful, it’s that the guy they were with didn’t know how to do it right. You do, and it’s going to a a completely different experience because you do. (1)
They help us know what we are doing when anal sexuality gets introduced into our relationships with women. When you know how to take a toy in your own ass without pain or discomfort and so that it feels good, you have the knowledge and sensitivity needed to penetrate her ass so there is no discomfort and it feels good for her too. Too many women have had bad first experiences with anal sexuality because the guy they are doing it with is clueless or thinks porn is sex ed (hint: porn is to learning about how to have sex as the car case scenes from The Blues Brothers are to learning how to drive a car. It’s fun to watch, but those are stunts, that’s not how it’s really done).
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The most important rules are go slow, use plenty of lube, and communicate. Keep your fingernails trimmed and snag free and/or use exam gloves or finger cots (like condoms for fingers). If it hurts, especially a sort of burning sensation, you are going too fast and probably need more lube. Back off and slow down. Don’t even think about his dick in her ass until 2 fingers or more or similar size toy is comfortable. That will almost certainly not be the first time doing butt stuff.